Do you keep work life and personal life distinct? Do you struggle with the boundaries? Can you reframe it?
In his article Successfully Integrate Your Work Life, Stew Friedman reframes the definition of work and personal life, and an alternative that gives you more satisfaction, less stress, and can actually improve your relationships in both places.
Just like in Design Thinking – it’s starting with the right question that makes all the difference.
“If I had an hour to solve a problem I’d spend 55 minutes thinking about the problem and 5 minutes thinking about solutions.”
― Albert Einstein
It starts with self-definition in this case instead of empathy. Although a case could be made that self-empathy, as a objective observer of your self, is really what is going on here.
He suggests starting with a good understanding clearly what you want (or need) from each area and the expectations of the relationships in each of those areas.
The next piece is to leave your assumptions at the door. Set aside what work is supposed to be. The plethora of advise about keeping work and personal separate – much of which goes back 60 years or more. What is true today?
If you take a look at what you want things to work like, you can start to make that happen. In fact – sometimes that’s the only critical step – to be aware.
What is important for you today? What would the world look like if you could change anything? Who could benefit from changes?